||What gaijin kids think about
||"When my grandmother got arthritis,
she couldn't bend over
and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her
all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
Rebecca- age 8
When someone loves you, the way they say your name is
different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."
Billy - age 4
"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on
shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
Karl - age 5
"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of
your French fries without making them give you any of theirs."
Chrissy -age 6
"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri - age 4
"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she
takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
Danny - age 7
"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired
of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My
Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"
Emily - age 8
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"
Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
Noelle - age 7
"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are
still friends even after they know each other so well."
Tommy - age 6
"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared.
I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and
smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
Cindy - age 8
"My mommy loves me more than anybody . You don't see anyone
else kissing me to sleep at night."
Clare - age 6
"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still
says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."
Chris - age 7
"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
Mary Ann - age 4
"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her
old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
Lauren - age 4
"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and
little stars come out of you." (what an imagination)
Karen - age 7
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."
Mark - age 6
"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it.
But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
Jessica - age 8
And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once
talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the
contest was to find the most caring child.
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor
was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife Upon
seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard,
climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked
what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I
just helped him cry"
||My wife dresses to kill. She also cooks the same way.
wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
bought my wife a new car. She called and said, "There痴 water in the carburetor."
I asked her , "Where's the car?" She replied, "In the lake."
secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, "You know, I was a fool when I married
you." The husband replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn't
a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep
haven't spoken to my wife in 18 months - I don't like to
girlfriend told me I should be more affectionate. So I got myself two
man said his credit card was stolen but he decided not to report it since the
thief was spending much less than his wife
incomplete until he is married. Then he is
little boy asked his father, "Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?" The
father replied, "I don't know son, I'm still
Son: Is it true, Dad, that in some parts of Africa, a man doesn't know his wife
until he marries her?
Dad: That happens in every country,
was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married;
then it was too
placed an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted." The next day he received a
hundred letters. They all said the same: "You can have
was telling her friend, "I made my husband a millionaire."
"And what was he
before you married him?" asked the friend.
"A billionaire." she
is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
Second marriage is the
triumph of hope over
not true that married men live longer than single men. It only seems
a wife can be very hard. In my case, it was almost
think, if it weren't for marriage, men would go through life thinking they had
no faults at
successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
successful woman is one who can find such a
have pierced ears are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and
The most effective way to remember your
wife's birthday is to forget it just once.
Communicating as a couple
||No new language required, just the
skills to talk things through and keep your relationship running
People relate to one another in different
ways, and not always directly. Often, you can tell what someone is trying to say
through body language. So, if you're scoring on someone whose arms and legs
remain firmly crossed, it might be a good time to make your excuses and get your
coat. Often, however, it's down to instinct. "I notice that if men look at you
in the eyes, they seem to be the ones that like you," says Christine. "Simple
touching is another sign that they like you. For example, patting you on the
leg, rubbing your back or your arm, wrestling around, tickling you."
Other times, it's what is not said
that speaks volumes. In this situation, unless you're a mind reader, you may
miss out on critical information - and a situation goes from bad to worse. "If I
think there is an issue with something which would affect the relationship I'll
bring it up," says Rachael.
In a relationship, clear communication is
vital to making things work. Unless you share your innermost thoughts and
feelings, the bond between you can quickly fray. Without knowing what really
makes you both tick, you risk misunderstanding creeping in, even resentment. "I
never keep any issues to myself," confesses Chris. "I like to bring everything
out into the open, maybe even argue about it a little bit. As long as it gets
solved, I'm happy, and there's no way for it to get solved unless you let the
other person know that it's a problem."
On paper, talking openly might seem like
common sense. In practice, it's often not so easy to express what you really
want to say. All kind of complications can kick in, from a fear of a bad
response to choosing the wrong time to talk. Whatever the case, it's vital that
you overcome all obstacles to ensure you're on the same wavelength. Josie thinks
it's all about forcing the subject. "When my boyfriend is avoiding an issue I
usually try to bring up things to see why it bothers him," she says. "If it's
really touchy I leave it alone - I just think some people need to have things
kept to themselves. I'm perfectly OK with that."
The skills you need
Be a listener: If you can list the issues in your relationship that trouble
you, tear it up right now. Steam in with demands and you'll put your partner
on the defensive. To kick-start a healthy conversation, go in with a good
question, even if you have to begin with one about your relationship in
general, and be prepared to let them talk.
Respect any differences: It would be a very dull relationship if you agreed
about everything. A conflict of opinion is a healthy thing, after all.
It shows you're individuals, capable of forming your own beliefs, as well
as debating them. Even if you disagree with each other about major life
issues, mutual respect will encourage you to find a way forward.
Meet in the middle: Compromise is crucial when it comes to negotiating
your way through any relationship. A listening ear and respect for your
partner's viewpoint will ensure you keep talking to one another. Flexibility
is what's needed for a solution you can both agree upon.
Review your decision: Put your proposed solution into practice for a while,
and see how things work out. Just be sure to review how things are going
so you can make any necessary adjustments.
With practice and experience, you'll find
these basic relationship skills will become second nature. From choosing a movie
on a Friday night to feeling like you need more space for your romance to
thrive, it means you can take